Many persons believe that a long distance relationship never works out because of the many complicating issues that arise occasionally as a result of long distance between the two parties. Friends and family may discourage it, they will advise you not to take it too seriously as you might get heart broken at the end of the day.
Truth be told, long distance relationships are not easy ventures. The distance makes it look like it’s not going to ever work as many things will be left unachieved. Issues get more complicated and worst of all, loneliness, boredom, mood swings and sadness set in more than often that is bearable.
Some of the things that you may likely miss in a long distance relationship include spending quality time together, eating together, holding each other’s hand, taking a walk together, praying together, hanging out and going to the movies together, etc.
These seemingly small wishes could suddenly mean so much more in a long distance relationship.
Truthfully speaking, a long distance relationship may be very much uneasy to manage, but interestingly it has its own good turns too. To keep the fire of your love alive and flaming, here are 3 tips to make your long distance relationship work:
1. Communicate often, but not in excess
Communication is key, very important in every relationship, but it’s unwise to be overly and excessively sticky and possessive. Many couples think that they need to compensate for the distance by doing more of calls, and texting and chatting etc. This is not true. While it’s good to always be in touch, it’s dangerous to make it look like the relationship depends on it. Focus on other things too which we’ll discuss in the later part of this article.
2. See it as an opportunity to grow
See your long distance relationship as an avenue to learn for the both of you. See it as a test of your love for each other. With that you learn what works and what does not work. Ever heard the ancient Chinese saying that, “Real gold is not afraid of the test of fire” So, instead of thinking that this long distance relationship is pulling you two apart, you should always believe that through this experience, you both will be bound together even stronger.
3. Have definite ground rules to manage your expectations
Both of you need to be clear with what you expect of each other as long as the long distance relationship lasts. Set ground rules to checkmate your activities which will help you do things that will not take the other party by surprise. For example, is it alright for the other person to go on dates with other people? What is the level of your commitment? It’s better to be clear with each other about all these things. When this is done, you will understand that a long distance relationship is not demanding and tasking as it seems.
These 3 tips above cam help you have a peaceful, and steady growing long distance relationship.
This is a series, you will definitely have more to read concerning your long distance relationship.